Not kindred myself, but I feel a particular association with Thor. I blot every time a storm rolls through. There's something about the raw power of a storm that's very energizing, and besides, who would turn down a chance to have a beer with a very good friend?
I feel close to all the gods. As a stay at home mother I do relate well to Frigga at the moment, but Freya has making some interesting appearance here lately and I had a nice chat with Odin the other night.
But no I am not oath ed.
I have a friend who is oath ed to Thor and another Freyr. My brother-in-law is close to Tyr. It wouldn't surprise me at all if he oat hes to him.
I put Odin and Frigga first, but not by much. I am pretty close to all the Gods. Ancestor worship also plays a big role in my religious life also. I think most Asatruar are that way.
Both wonderful and terrible, generously benevolent and willing to sacrifice whatever is necessary to get things done. He has taught me to accept the inevitability of Ragnarok, and that to embrace ones death is the only way to truly live . . .
It IS "future"/"fulltrui" . . . "Patrons" are for Wiccans. Not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not a heathen term.
As noted elsewhere, I'm a Freyrsman myself, and Freyrsgothi to a rather wide swath of Texas heathens. But while my hearth and stead are dedicated to Freyr, the only other member of my kin clan to join me in the Folkway wants to follow Odhinn. Tsk. :-P
Thorsman here... *points to his name* My kindred has at least one other Thorsman, but the Kindred itself is not dedicated to a specific god or goddess. We've got a Freysgothi, and our main got hi is I think an Odinsman.
I've just always felt the closest to Thor because, well, I interact with him the most, and he has the qualities I would most like to possess (strength, courage, wisdom).
My kindred includes one member dedicated to Freyja's service as her ThiaIAclergy). Others are not oathed but tend to associate strongly with a particular diety (including Tyr, Odin, and Braggi). I myself would declare for Thor, if forced to choose only one, but hey... this is polytheism and I don't have to favor one god over another!
I see the gods as my elder kin. "Uncle" Thor might inspire me a bit more than "Grandma" Frigga... but I'll gladly enjoy the spiritual company of either one.
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I have a respect for all the gods/goddess in his or her own right, I have since the beginning of my Asatru journey found a stronger connection with Tir for much of the same reasons as you have listed but for one reason above all else in the tale of Loki's son fineness the wolf. Tir made a sacrifice of his right arm to help the other gods bind the wolf, this shows self sacrifice for the greater good of all. something that is lacking in our modern self-centered culture.