why do asatru girls always end up with none asatrus?

I seem to have a problem I always find heathen girls, mostly estrus, always seem to be the Wiccans or druid or very rarely Christians. and I always seem to be the guy they all bitch about how they can't seem to see eye to eye with their lover and most of these relationships end very horribly form what I've seen. what the hell am I? it's almost like I have to wave around a banner saying I'm looking for a heathen girl. am I just the guy they all go to to bitch about their problems of not finding a heathen male? I swear I get so frustrated some times at this. and when I speak of the heathen girls i mean the ones around my age, I'm 20 by the way, are these girls trying to drive me nut? sigh* any advice on this matter would be very nice
ARAGORN for such comment i have broken limbs to those who have stated such to me in person unless you know what you are talking about shut up.
to the young lady I really can't hit on women that well or say such comments the are so crude my I always have fear that my grandmother will pop up and beat me. I was raised with class when it comes to female and will keep it. I never call girls hot or sexy I find such things to be in ill taste and to be quite crude and stupid. that is my personal view not a fact of course.
Ymmo the Heathen please refrain from calling me an uneducated barbarian in the frustration and heat of emotion I often forget to spell check and if you base everything off weather or not some one capitalizes a word it simply show how uneducated and quick to judge you are. indeed you are lucky perhaps my greatest problem is they see me more of the big brother guardian figure than anything else after all I am pretty much the local Heathen watch dog. also I guess I should express my interest a little more instead of always seeming so cold. what can I say I came from an area where being Heathen could get you killed.

try being a girl.... i stopped taking the city bus when i had a guy tell me i looked like I'd make a good momma, his kids need a good momma, and would i like to come home with him.....

Well, I beg your pardon, I seem to be an exception. My current partner is the third Heathen in a row I've been with.

I think the problem boils down to sheer numbers: there are SO few of us Heathens that we have to be REALLY lucky to find a partner we can get on well with AND they're Heathen.

Oh and DO capitalize Heathen, please. Else what you're saying is "uneducated barbarian". Heathenry (a belief) is a proper name, hence written with a capital H.

Edit: I wasn't calling YOU an uneducated barbarian. I merely stated that if you don't capitalize Heathen, YOU are saying "uneducated barbarian" instead of "follower of the Heathenry religion". Get it now?
Maybe take time to read things twice and contemplate them a little instead of jumping to conclusions - it will make you much less frustrated, since you'll avoid many misunderstandings.

That's tough about having to hide your belief like that. Well, once you get to know the girl enough (so that you find out she actually is Heathen), maybe you should allow yourself to be a bit more accessible to them...?
I don't know, I can't really help you since i don't know you and the situation you're in.

I'm not sure. I wouldn't wave a banner around, but I would drop hints to them. I don't think they're trying to drive you nuts... maybe they don't realize you are available to them?

Aragorn, Asatru is not a racist religion... no more than Christianity is. We have people who use our religion for racist ends... just like the KKK has used the Bible and Christianity for decades. Please, at least learn about our religion from the actual people who follow it instead of cruising hate sites that happen to call themselves Asatru/Heathen.

Wolf you're probably better off at 20 years old being single, having a good time, drinking with the lads and doing all the things that you wont be able to do if you have a woman in tow. You have plenty of time to find a Heathen woman when you get over 25, live the next five years like they are your last!

Oh, Aragorn. Yet another person who fails to see the difference between foolish beliefs and actions and the ravings of the lunatic fringe racists. Racists are actually quite rare in Nordic/Germanic Heathenism as our faith teaches us tolerance. Folkism is rather common because of cultural differences and the problems those can cause in relationships. My own failed marriage is proof of that. I would never dream of accusing every christian of being a racist because of the actions of the KKK, the Christian Identity Movement, the Illinois Family Institute, any christian group with the word "Phineas" in the title, etc. etc. That would simply be a display of great ignorance on my part, just as your assertion that ?satr? is a racist faith is a sure sign of your ignorance about it. Here ya go -----> http://www.heathensagainsthate.org/links.html Heathens Against Hate links so you can educate yourself and not make such a grievous error in the future. There's a lot of us Heathens who are foolish for a variety of reasons but are not racist in the least. I'm foolish, but my son is half Native American. I no longer date outside of my culture, but that has nothing to do with skin color or race. There are plenty of Scandinavians and Germanic/Nordic Heathens who are far from pasty white (as I am).

Wolf, I agree with Noddy. You are still very young - you're younger than my son even! There's no rush. This isn't the caveman days and the chances of you dropping dead before age 30 are quite slim in modern times. Enjoy your time being single. I know I'm enjoying being single again!

I would suggest you move to a more tolerant area when you get the chance, BTW. I don't know what state you're in, but I live in California now and love it. It is pretty tolerant and we have lots of national parks, state parks or just heavily wooded parks and wetland preserves even in the middle of our big cities. Other Heathens are relatively easy to find here. I live on the edge of a very heavily wooded park and other Nordic Heathen families from my Kindred have moved into the area as well. It appeals to us and we meet in the park frequently. We actually have seven Heathen households surrounding the park now, all members of my Kindred. More will move in when another of the large houses goes up for sale.

*just got a pic of a very large raccoon on my patio eating my outdoor/stray cat's food!* I like living here. LOL!

I'm in my twenties, I'm Heathen, and I'm a chick.... But sorry, not single. [Nor am I dating a Wiccan, Druid, or Christian. A Thelemite actually.]

You're probably just hanging around with the wrong chicks. If your prospect is for dating the girl you need to find someone who isn't in a relationship to hang around, for starters. Someone who constantly whines about how terrible their current relationship is, should be a red flag, a warning sign [They'll do that about you if you ever get with them.] This has little to do with their religion and everything to do with their personality, some women are like that. Sounds like they are just using you as cheap talk therapy and leading you on.

As for why a Heathen girl would date someone who doesn't practice her religion. Could be any number of reasons. Namely that they simply like the man and get along well with him. In my own case, I don't have the expectation that others should share my beliefs. As long as the person I am dating isn't putting down my beliefs and/or trying to change me, I don't really have too big of a problem with it. As long as their is some commonality in worldview...

My advice would be to stop looking so hard for a Asatruar to date and look for someone who you get along well with who shares some of your other interests. Maybe you might in the process find someone who isn't currently a Heathen but may have an interest in it. Or you may really luck out and find that Heathen girl you want so bad. My point is the harder you try to find love the the harder it is going to be. Relax and enjoy being single for now.

You know what you want, and an honorable pursuit of which takes time as well as personal development and growth, which is something everyone experiences inside and outside of relationships. Patience, self mastery, honor and integrity.. who wouldn't want that out of friends and companions?