The One states that [everyone] is [meant] to be with [one] person in the world, they just have to find that person. Key words in brackets. This concept is very common on Disney Channel. And is a very famous break-up line. This concept is based on fate.
1. It seems to be based according to the Christianity belief of one man, one woman = marriage. Obviously this doesn't work with dating. That implies that our fate [predestined] for us to get married or live forever to one person. This concept seems to be a moral concept.
In many other countries, they have men and women marry multiple people. In some cases, the women do not like it but in some cases, the women have NO problem with it. The one implies, that they are going against fate.
2. The one forgets that some people are asexual. Say, Molly is supposed to be chosen by fate with Tom. But Molly is asexual and never goes dating and never finds Tom. Tom will never find The One then. Which could mean that some people will never FIND the one.
3. The One implies that our fate is predestined. Predestined by who and what???
4. The One forgets that people die. What if your One died while you were alive? So many people won't find their One's.
5. The One is basically pointless. So many people who claimed to have truly found The One died or their One died.... and went back to dating. If you already found The One, why are dating people who you weren't meant to be with? You are dating other people's One's.
I am a teenager and I am going to start dating soon but I can not find any reason to believe in this concept. I definitely believe in love .... but this? It's like Cinderella has been engraved in our heads. It has no logic behind it.
I just want people's opinions to make sure I am on the right track.
That would explain a lot! Though you give a list of other reasons why it's silly. I would add it's too easy to dream up excuses as to why it's not appearing to "work" for everybody. For example, one could always make the unfounded claim that their unknown "soul mate" died before they ever got a chance to ever know each other. I'd be willing to bet that a lot of people who believe in this stuff are bad at math, especially probability theory.
There is no One person that anyone is "meant to be with." That's rubbish. There are lots of people that any given person might have a successful and happy lifelong relationship with.
Now, it's possible that there is an ideal match for any two people from the billions and billions of people in the world, but realistically, people tend not to find this match and settle for someone that they're just comfortable with.
I agree and do not agree with you at the same time.
Sure, the concept of THE ONE is really impossible.
But some people get married and actually live with the same person for the rest of their lives until death set them apart. And even after, they don't get married ever again!
Not a lot are like that though.
But in my opinion, I believe that we all have a Soul Sister of some sort, a person that we really get along with, that supports us, that understands us...it doesn't have to be a lover! It can be a best friend or a family member! =)
Blessing, a lot for you.
~Axel~
PTN** [Please Take Note] : My beliefs may not be the same as yours, so please accept that I may have different views on the world. Be open-minded and do not judge.
Good reasoning! =)
I don't agree with it either..
It's just a Disney fairytale, and it has no root in reality whatsoever!
We are 6,2 billion people here on this earth. Out of all those billions there will be quite a few who you will be compatible with, and also many who you will be completely incompatible with. Whenever we stumble upon a person we become attracted to and fall in love with, and they fall in love with us as well, it might *feel* as if they are the one. But it is only a feeling which occurs due to certain chemicals being released in our brains, and that's about it. (Still beautiful, though!)
Love is NOT something predestined!
It is something one needs to work on.
Something that might either grow over time or get destroyed by time..
That's my view, at least.
Atheists, do you believe in the one?
