im 19, an indian hindu and my parents wont let me date.?

its so sad that i have to hide behind there backs but it something they wont get. I am now talking to a guy of the Indian culture and i really like him. Im not in love and nor is he but we enjoy each others company.
When he calls my mom hears me on the phone and shes always asking (not if its him) who it is and then tells me to get of the phone and that Ive been talking to for to long and it has been like 5 minutes. I tell her everything and she still doesn't trust me enough. I feel like the more personal part of life, i have to hide from her and when he asks me to go out i always lie and say my gs name. our relationship is getting to a point where we want to see each other more and hang out.
He knows about Indian parents but i want to introduce him to my parents. if its a friend they dint care but hes more than that.
my brother is in a relationship with a girl that isn't even Hindu and they dint care but for me its like WHOA and its so faking annoying, sometimes i wanna walk up to my mom and be like wtf is wrong with you this is the 21st century you dumb ass but i cant do it.
I love her but i want them to meet any guy that im dating, just so they know, i dont want them to miss that portion of my life, nor do i want to act like an angel in front of them and do things they are not aware of.
im 19 and i can take care of myself, what should i do? say? act?
and btw, they let me go out clubbing, staying overnight at hotels but they wont let me have a boyfriend? LOL

Ur an adult its time that you stick up 4 yourself on that situation.

Do what you go to do. You are an adult. and should be able to decide for your self. Just do what makes you happy. b/c in the long run that's what matters. Yourr happiness. Good luck!

Mine: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Asgde6Rh3XhH8KYdGEu0p9bsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid =20110205150509AAyc8H4

my moms side of the family is Hindu
and its the thing that the sons always get treated better

but my mom was going to get in an arranged marriage, and she backed out, and married a white guy, my grand parents were pissed for a while but they realized that there daughters happiness is more important.

if i were you id start talking about moving out, look for places and what not


mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110206143602AAF0Qqx

Ur an alt ND can do Wat u want

they probleEmilynk there prtecting you from the wrong kind of people because of your colch

move out chances are they dint want you happy .

Tell your mother what a great cook she is and how you have been telling your friends about it. Ask her if she will let you help prepare a dinner for a special occasion (birthday, etc.) that you can invite your friends to. . . . I think you can see where this is going right?

The point is that you have to let your mother feel special in a situation that would involve her meeting your friend. This may not result in an immediate "Oh this boy is so nice, please ask him out" but it will open the doors. This may be a slow process, but it is better than destroying your family's harmony - So you must find a way to fit your boyfriend into that harmony.

You should also be honest with your boyfriend about what is going on. Many parents have a hard time "letting go" of their children, and many children feel at a loss when their parents put social restrictions on them to the extent that the children lie not only their parents, but to their friends as well. These lies may be a way to help violate the parents' unfair rules, and may also be a way to help the child save face with their friends. But a true friend will understand the truth and will want to work with you on solving the problem in an honest way, and a parent will love a child who loves them back with honesty as well as flattery. Yes, flattery to parents does work . . . Think of how you might say to a friend's mother "Mrs. Patel, your flowers are so pretty. You must work long and hard to maintain them!" Now . . . think of saying something like that to your mom, and throwing in an offer to help her make them look nice.

Just a few ideas, tips, and best wishes for your friend, your mom, and especially for YOU!

Lol you 'club and party' and yet you have this problem?
figure it out yourself Indians with 'strict' parents cant even do any of those things you just mentioned
you dint really have the 'real' problems

well its a Lil bid complex , if i saw my younger sis dating someone i will go crazy BTU somewhere inside me i know that she Harv to date and start her own life because if she didn't she will never get married and if so she wont Harv the experience to deal with different aspects of life . what m saying is its v normal for them to be little old-fashioned as for Indian culture BTU even its normal for you to date someone behind there backs its a normal situation