can i divorse my husband in islam ? (please read details)?
OK so I'm a young Muslim lady, and my mother got me married about 10months ago (my mum is white but converted to Islam when she married my dad but shes not practicing - mum & dad are divorced because he got a 2ND wife), my dad didn't agree with the marriage and didn't want it to go ahead (but he was in another country so he couldn't stop it), but i dint view marriage as a joke, i always wanted you know to be married for life, so i tried to make the marriage work, but now after 10months i can see that the marriage isnt going to work. i try my best to be practising, i pray every day, read Quran everyday, fast not only ramadan but also try and fast eery monday and thursday, i wasnt brought up very practising, but i am trying so hard to learn more and more about islam and to be a good muslim. my husband though is not like this, i was living with him for 6months before he sent me back to live with my mum (as he was taking all my money untill it ran out so he sent me back to my mum in the uk to work - he lives in morocco). he drinks, smokes, does drugs occasionally. he tries to stop me from praying, and doesnt like me learning about islam. he doesnt work, the money i got for my dowry he took back, and also took over ?8,500 from me. he refuses to work, refuses to support me financially (and i am having to give up work for health reasons). he has committed adultery on many occasions. he abuses me physically, but mainly emotionally. i know that i cant be with him because of how he is, but he refuses to change. i was just wondering islamically do i have the right to divorse him ( we have talked about the subject and he has refused to divorse me, he said the only way he will divorse me is he will go and kill himself then i will not longer be married). please if anyone can give advise, and islamically what should i do ? do i have to stay with him ? or am i able to get a divorse ? thank you to anyone who answers
Your husband can beat or kill you in Islam and still be true to his religion. If you are fortunate to live in a country that won't kill you for leaving Islam I suggest you divorce this person in a secular court and revert to Christianity.
as i know the more pious one, the more Allah will test ones faith.
be strong. Allah waits your patience and later He blesses you with another blessing.
recite this:
"O God, if he is good for me, for my Adhara, for my religion, keep him as my husband. if not then, you are the best decider."
You are a Muslim woman you have your rights! Be strong and stand up for yourself go to court! You can sue him for doing this! This s0n of a B#%?? is an abomination to Islam!
I don't know enough about Islam, but I'd say that you're God wouldn't want to see you like that.
Your husband have absolutely no right to treat you like that, and i really think you should seek out a professional rather than on Yahoo.
But I'd divorce him without a doubt, and hopefully you're not living in an Arabic country, because that would make things alto harder.
I'd pack up all your belongings and moved to a friends house. Then I'd call him up and calmly explain to him what you are doing and why you are doing it. I'd do this over the phone to save him from getting violent. Then you don't have to see him again and arrange all the paper work for the divorce via a solicitor/friend.
But I don't have enough knowledge on the subject, so I'd get a wider arrange of advice first, especially from a charity in your country for abused wives, i think they'll be able to help you if you just go ogle it.
Good luck, i hope you'll be happy!
If you did not specif icy in the engagement that you want power of divorce, you cannot divorce him that way. Some women do not learn their Islamic rights before they get married and end up like you.
If you want to divorce him, you now have 2 options since he refuses to divorce you.
1) Have an Islamic judge divorce you and him with 2 just witnesses.
2) You can divorce him by telling him and leaving, however, you are not allowed to take anything with you that he bought for you, you leave with the clothes on your back and get out.
In your situation, I would recommend option#2 since I am scared you go ahead with the divorce and he might severely hurt or kill you. Never take physical abuse as something lightly, if they can hit you, they are able to do much worse without realizing.
I am not a marriage Counsellor nor a Sharia lawyer but I believe you do have grounds to seek for divorce.
Firstly, he is not a good husband, He should be the one guiding you to the ways of Allah but yet he stopped you from praying and learning more about Islam.
Secondly, he also drinks, does drugs and commit adultery which are all forbidden in Islam,
Thirdly, he is irresponsible. He refuses to work and do not provide you with any financial support which by right a husband should do. Instead, he took money/dowry from you. He also sent you back to UK to work while he remains in Morocco.
Fourth, he abuses you physically and emotionally. A good Muslim man must treat his wife with due respect and protect her instead of hurting her.
I suggest you seek legal advice (Sharia) and present your case. If you have evidence to prove that you support him financially and on the physical abuse (police report?) that would be good.
Depending on where you live and from which country you come from, it may not be easy to seek divorce especially if he is not willing. You need a good lawyer to represent you and family to support you emotionally.
On the other hands, you may also want to keep your marriage (which is greatly encouraged in Islam) and give him another chance. You could talk to him nicely and help him overcome his drinking and drugs problems. Give him your support and request that he seeks professional help. This may take a long time but you need to be patient and strong. Keep praying and always seek Allah for help. Insyallah, with your perseverance and Allah's help, your husband may change and your marriage may be saved.
can i divorse my husband in islam ? (please read details)?
