I've been dating this guy for a while and conversation about converting to Islam has came up a lot and has been the only thing to cause problems for us. We love each other but it's so hard to choose because him and converting are two things that are very close to my heart. But, he is atheist and i feel like he will never believe it. Also, he is trying so hard to keep me and i want to keep him because he is the only guy who has ever respected me compared to other guys and he is the sweetest guy i have ever met, and if i choose Islam i am afraid that i will never find a man as good as him. I really would love some advice ASAP
Aw..choose your boyfriend. His love for you is demonstrably genuine and real, whereas Islam teaches you that you must earn salvation through blindly worshiping a deity that will punish you on the Day of Judgment otherwise. That sounds like coercion and superstition over genuine human-to-human love.
Do you have to choose? Can't you have both? As long as he lets you raise your children to believe as you do, and he does not undermine you on the topic to them. I don't see a problem. You need to explain to him that Islam is apart of who you are. I do not follow religion though I respect people on religious paths, and I'm sure your boyfriend respects you.
Will i choose God and his mercy and reward or i choose life with its enjoyments and pleasure ? !!
i just remind you sister when it's the judgment day
no one will even look for his son or his mother .. no one will even look to his dad or his brother
everyone on his own .. your good doings and prayers are the key
if you do believe in God honestly .. be sure he is the one sent this guy and his love to you as a test but he is the one able to even send you much better than him.
peace be upon you
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also one comment for some Christians that making some fun about Islam
stoning is mentioned in the bible ::
20 But if this thing be true, that the tokens of virginity were not found in the young lady; 21 then they shall bring out the young lady to the door of her father?s house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death with stones, because she has done folly in Israel, to play the prostitute in her father?s house: so you shall put away the evil from the midst of you. Deuteronomy 22:20-21 (World English Bible)
The very fact that Islam discriminates against those who do not believe in its ideology is the reason you should avoid it. A true faith should make you love him more.
Before you convert, are you aware the penalty for leaving Islam is death ?
Can you provide us with the real reason for converting ? What do you see in Islam that is not present in your current/previous belief ?
I'm a Christian who once had an experience like this with a Buddhist boyfriend. So my advice to you is..Don't ever leave the religion which has raised you up from childhood..Even if you accept atheism and be with your boyfriend, you'll regret it and I'm quite sure that you will go back to your roots at the end of the day!! Leave your boyfriend instead..anyways, boys come and go..u might even find a better one than him
THE RIGHT OF A MUSLIM WOMAN IS TO BE RESPECTED FOR HER MIND AND FOR BEING HER OWN PERSON- Islam Gives Men and Women Equal Rights
"O You who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness,? And live with them honorably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and God brings through it a great deal of good." (Quran- 4:19)
1. The RIGHT and duty to acquire education.
2. The RIGHT to have her own independent property.
3. The RIGHT to work [job or business] to earn money, which she keeps.
4. The RIGHT to equal reward for equal deed and/or work.
5. The RIGHT to express her opinion.
6. The RIGHT to argue and/or advocate her cause or opinion to be heard.
7. The RIGHT to vote since 579 A.D.
8. The RIGHT to provisions from her husband for all her needs and more.
9. The RIGHT to negotiate marriage terms of her choice.
10.The RIGHT to obtain divorce from her husband, even on the grounds that she simply don't like him. In Islaam divorce is suppose to be last resort.
11.The RIGHT to keep all her own money. [She is not responsible for maintenance of family].
12.The RIGHT to get sexual satisfaction from her husband.
13.The RIGHT to get custody of her children in case of divorce [unless she is unable to raise them for valid reasons]
14.The RIGHT to choose husband of her choice.
15.The RIGHT to refuse a proposed and/or arranged marriage.
16. The RIGHT to re-marry after divorce or after becoming widow. 17. An Islamic law does not require that women should confine themselves to household duties.
Muslim women have [and are as well] headed Islamic provinces [and states as well], like Arwa bunt Ahmad, who served as governor of Yemen under the Fatimid Khalifahs in the late fifth and early sixth century.
Name any other religion, political theory, or philosophy which offers such a comprehensiveness to women by giving her total control of her life and affairs ??? NONE
Islam considers a woman to be equal to a man as a human being. Women have been created with a soul of the same nature as man?s. Islam does not blame Eve alone for the First Sin. The Quran makes it very clear that both Adam and Eve were tempted, that they both sinned and were both forgiven after their repentance.
A WOMAN?s RIGHT IN THE BIBLE
STONE THEM TO DEATH: "If however the charge is true and no proof of the girl's virginity can be found, she shall be brought to the door of her father's house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death..." Deuteronomy 22:13-21
Polygamy still exists amongst fundamentalist Mormons and certain sects. A fundamentalist group in America instructs women to call their husbands MASTER and to practice the art of being a SLAVE. Various fundamentalists exhort wives to submit and obey and have embarked on a chastity crusade targeting young women. ARE WOMEN TREATED FAIRLY IN THE BIBLE? ARE THEY RESPECTED AS INDIVIDUALS OR SLAVES TO MAN? ARE THEY RESPECTED AND HONORED?
Note: All references from King James Version
THE REASON BEHIND PAINS OF DELIVERY
[Genesis 3:16]
16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
CAN SELL YOUR DAUGHTERS
[Exodus 21:7]
. 7 And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do.
CHOPPING OFF WIFE?S HAND FOR HELPING HUSBAND
[Deuteronomy. 25:11]
11 When men strive together one with another, and the wife of the one drawer near for to deliver her husband out of the hand of him that SmithThim, and putteth forth her hand, and taketh him by the secrets: 12 Then thou shalt cut off her hand, thine eye shall not pity her.
HEY! WOMAN SHUT UP!!!
[1 Corinthians. 14:34]
34 Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law. 35 And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
GOD PUNISHES WIVES FOR HUSBAND?S SINS
[Amos 7:16-17]
16 Now therefore hear thou the word of the LORD: Thou sayest, Prophesy not against Israel, and drop not thy word against the house of Isaac. 17 Therefore thus saith the LORD; Thy wife shall be an harlot in the city,
Islam discourage conversation without faith.If you are converting just because of your boy friend that is NOT Islam.
Anyway ask him what's religion got do with love.
ever heard of Aminah Assilmi , an American Muslim revert?
Her friends abandoned her when she became Muslim,
Her sister attempted to put her in a mental institution
Her father wanted to kill her
Her husband divorced her
she was forced by court to chose between her children and Islam ,
She chose Islam because she believed it was the Truth
and now you know what happened?
her ex husband became a Muslim, her late grandmother, her mother , her father and her son all converted to Islam and the additional blessing is that despite doctors telling her she couldn't have children again, God blessed her and she did..
If you give up what you mostly love in this world for the sake of Allah, He will not abandon you and He will reward you with better things than you gave up
If you are not ready to sacrifice for Allah , then you need to check your heart again ..
May Allah Guide you(and hopefully ,the man you love) to the straight path
He is your friend. It is very easy for you to convert him to Islam.
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What should i chose Islam or my boyfriend?
