About me: i used to wear hi jab and prayed 5 times a day but just after i finished uni, made some white friends etc, my Oman/faith has gone down. this is three years back, i tried to find job which wasn't easy for me & inside me was telling me to take off the scarf and that's the only way of getting the job you want. i tried to attend interviews wearing hi jab etc but nothing worked out & i guess i didn't have enough patience. the first day i took my scarf off, i got a job offer.
to make the story short, since then i had the job i wanted, good money but inside me i was not and i am not happy at all!! it is hard for me to pray 5 times when am working as there is no space etc
For some reason, i realized, i have everything but i am still not happy. I want to be a good Muslim and practise my Dene instead of running after money and looking at this Danya ONLY! I am so frustrated but i do want to go on the right path. i want to quit my job and start fresh inshallah, but for family, they think, i am crazy leaving the job etc but i dont care, i am doing this for Allah and inshallah Allah knows best.
Pls give me good advise brothers and sisters
Thanks
PS: no jokes & no stupid reply if you dont know what i am going through or about my religion.
I tell you this in all sincerity, this 'Danya' is all we have! Make the most of it, without hurting or harming anyone as far as possible. No god, however you imagine him, would grudge you a good life and enjoyment. Live while alive, you're dead when you die. 'Duniya' means the world, right? In Hindi.
Well the prophet said "keep good company for company can always affect u and Ur behavior"..also people determine who u are by Ur friends..
From what i see your friends do not appreciate u or Ur religion even if they are Muslims...A true Muslimah would 'never' take off her hi jab for a job..that's stooping down...now Ive accepted Ur mistake it is good..but u saw that the people hiring for jobs are perverts who want to see women's beauty whereas in islam beauty is not important but what is in the hearts, that is why those women that wear the true hijab (not the tight jeans and cloths and scarf) are respected and a man looks down when she walks past..
You should have kept the job and started to wear the hijab and started to bring ur identity back..uif u live in the UK then its great, we give freedom to express ur religion so do what you want!..I already feel like ur my true sister from what u did because it shows u have guts and u want to fear god and be a true muslimah...
LEAVE ur friends because they will only keep u down -your proof of this was ur deen became weak
Make new friends - good company will make u stronger and a higher chance to jannah (doesnt have to be muslims because u get very god fearing christians/jews/hindu's/sikhs etc)
Spend more time with ur family because that will increase ur love for them and strenghthen ur love for god for blessing u with parents..
Seek knowledge - read the quran and authentic hadith - if u dont then what will u say to allah on day of judgement?i read quran but didnt understand ur message?...knowledge is power..
If you have true faith in god then ANYTHING is possible...but if u doubt god and go against god then shaytaan has won u over according to islam and that is why u landed the job before..
Start looking for a job or how about start ur own business??...its upto u sis..
I think you should keep your job, you can still pray 5 times a day, you can read the ones you missed (I don't know what it's called) But I do that when I miss some prayers because of school.
You are right to be feeling unhappy with it all, I think that this shows that you still are a strong believer of Islam, you should start wearing your scarf again because I think that some bad intention or voice told you to take it off which is not good, wearing a scarf will make your faith stronger. Try to think of it as, Allah always comes first, you can have as many jobs as you want, you can make as many money as you want, but you will only take your faith with you on Judgement day. All that money and that job won't be there in your afterlife, make sure whenever you think that you are doing something and you feel as if something wrong, don't do it!
I can't really give you any advice because I'm very obviously not a Muslim, but I hope I can offer encouragement by telling you that not all employers are so stupid they can only see the scarf and not hear what the human being is saying - nor are all employers prejudiced against those who choose to wear hi jab and/or Muslims. If you'd applied at my company you would have been treated in exactly the same way as other applicants and, if you were the right person for the job, I'd have made you an offer.
Remember that a job is about more than just money - it also gives you self respect, and if you can't be yourself in a job you won't get that. Stay with the job for now if you need the money, but there's no harm in looking for another with a company that respects you as an individual and where people don't have such idiotic prejudices. It might take a while, but as you say Allah knows best. He'll look after you.
Dunya only? Do you have any real evidence that there's more to come after the life in this world? I think it's an extremely retarded thing to do to give up what you have here because that way a shepherd in the 6Th century said you're gonna' get a permanent place in the god created brothel... after you die!
Maybe you should listen to what people in your family are telling you to. You work hard and you earn money... there's nothing wrong about this. There nothing wrong even if you work while your hair is uncovered. It's only the god of the retards that's concerned about such nonsense issues.
If you are badly in need to work(due to financial difficulties) then, try going to your job in hookah and see the responses from your coworkers. If it's not very satisfying, quit your job. Because nothing is important than pleasing Allah.
It's not really necessary for a Muslim lady to work, it's the guys job to feed the family. The Muslim women is responsible of the house.
Have patience. That's all I can say
If I took my Hijab off for a job interview I swear down I'd feel as if I've stripped out of my clothes. I don't see Hijab as something that's covering my hair or chest. I see it as a clothing that I can't go out without. I love wearing it especially now that I know the reason for why I'm wearing it..
Sis nothing in life is easy, everywhere you go is a struggle. I've got white friends +& they are safe, they understand the Religion even though they wouldn't want to follow it because of the life they have +& I totally respect that. You can't force a person in to your Religion now can you? You can only advice them. Anyways this one particular girl is like a big sis to me who always advices me on stuff..
The sort of friends you have got are bad influence on you. I don't pray my Salahs even though I should but for someone that's been pray in 5 times a day +& now has totally stopped I'm sure you can see why you don't feel happy. In this Duniyah you can have every thin you need but if your parent's aren't happy with you, most of all Allah s.w.t then the worldly affairs are for nothing. They don't mean anything.
I suggest you start wearing a Hijab again once you feel as if your confident +& start praying again. If you get sacked for following your Religion you can say they discriminated you or are racist. Which ever one is the right word to use.
Where are you from?? Your parent's should be supporting you for making the right decision..
Allah knows best. Hope you succeed in life +& get what you want Inshallah Ameen x
I am a Christian but I had a good friend who was a good Muslim and a doctor. He could not pray 5 times a day because of his job, but he took the attitude that as long as he didn't loose sight of God, then God would understand if he was prevented by circumstances from actually going through the the formal process of praying. That seemed to me to be a very reasonable attitude to take.
In fact, during the many centuries that followed Prophet Muhammad (pub), women of the Islamic societies had a much higher social position than the women of Christendom. Karen Armstrong emphasizes that, during the Middle Ages;
... the Muslims were horrified to see the way Western Christians treated their women in the Crusader states, and Christian scholars denounced Islam for giving too much power to menials like slaves and women.
Anna King, a modern Muslim woman and a convert - or, better to say, a revert - to Islam, explains the Islamic emancipation of women as follows:
Islam gave women the right to buy and sell on their own, own businesses and express her views politically, also encouraged women to study and learn Islamic knowledge, breaking a ban which several beliefs had stipulated, which forbid women to acquire any religious knowledge or touch religious texts... It also abolished the practice of marrying a woman without her consent.
Thus, the mentality that despises women, excludes them from society and regards them as second class citizens has no place in Islam.
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THE RIGHT OF A MUSLIM WOMAN IS TO BE RESPECTED FOR HER MIND AND FOR BEING HER OWN PERSON- Islam Gives Men and Women Equal Rights
"O You who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness,? And live with them honorably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and God brings through it a great deal of good." (Quran- 4:19)
1. The RIGHT and duty to acquire education.
2. The RIGHT to have her own independent property.
3. The RIGHT to work [job or business] to earn money, which she keeps.
4. The RIGHT to equal reward for equal deed and/or work.
5. The RIGHT to express her opinion.
6. The RIGHT to argue and/or advocate her cause or opinion to be heard.
7. The RIGHT to vote since 579 A.D.
8. The RIGHT to provisions from her husband for all her needs and more.
9. The RIGHT to negotiate marriage terms of her choice.
10.The RIGHT to obtain divorce from her husband, even on the grounds that she simply don't like him. In Islaam divorce is suppose to be last resort.
11.The RIGHT to keep all her own money. [She is not responsible for maintenance of family].
12.The RIGHT to get sexual satisfaction from her husband.
13.The RIGHT to get custody of her children in case of divorce [unless she is unable to raise them for valid reasons]
14.The RIGHT to choose husband of her choice.
15.The RIGHT to refuse a proposed and/or arranged marriage.
16. The RIGHT to re-marry after divorce or after becoming widow. 17. An Islamic law does not require that women should confine themselves to household duties.
Muslim women have [and are as well] headed Islamic provinces [and states as well], like Arwa bunt Ahmad, who served as governor of Yemen under the Fatimid Khalifahs in the late fifth and early sixth century.
Name any other religion, political theory, or philosophy which offers such a comprehensiveness to women by giving her total control of her life and affairs ??? NONE
Islam considers a woman to be equal to a man as a human being. Women have been created with a soul of the same nature as man?s. Islam does not blame Eve alone for the First Sin. The Quran makes it very clear that both Adam and Eve were tempted, that they both sinned and were both forgiven after their repentance.
a question about islam women, pls help?
