I'm a Muslim myself, and I was wondering how is it possible not to fantasize/think thoughts about some you love? How do you 'control' your thoughts so they're 'pure' and not in a way dirty? And is it in any way ha ram to fall in love with someone else and if it is/isn't how can you control yourself?
Please don't go trolling I just wanna know
Thanks!
How is that pure? Naturally your hormones are raging, and that's what religion doesn't cover, biology.
You can't control that, unless you meditate and clear your mind. I suggest you go with your body, and don't try to do things against yourself.
Islamic sharer?ah is the sharer?ah of the fit rah (natural state of man) and it is in harmony with human nature, and it takes into account the psychological fluctuation that Allaah has made a part of the human make-up. So it does not go beyond human limitations or impose impossible burdens.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
?Allaah burdens not a person beyond his scope?
[AL-Baqarah 2:286]
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ?Allaah has forgiven my ummah for whatever crosses their mind so long as they do not speak of it or act upon it.? Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2528) and Muslim (127).
It seems that the correct view is the view that such fantasies are makrooh, even if we do not say that they are haraam. That is for the following reasons:
1- Many psychologists regard sexual fantasies as a psychological disorder if they dominate a person?s thinking to such an extent that he cannot enjoy any pleasure except through these fantasies, and that may lead to abnormal sexual fantasies.
2- Islamic sharee?ah teaches the principle of sadd al-dharaa?i? or blocking the means that may lead to haraam things and closing every door that may lead to evil. It is to be expected that sexual fantasies may lead to a person committing haraam deeds. A person who frequently imagines something and wishes for it will inevitably develop the motive to do it and will try to do it a great deal. So he starts by looking at haraam images, and his eyes become accustomed to looking at haraam things, then he will try to fulfil his fantasies.
3- Most of these fantasies comes to people?s mind by haraam means in people?s minds, such as permissive satellite channels and by watching scenes of decadent societies from kaafir lands all over the world, where there is no modesty and watching sex scenes is becoming a daily habit, as is obvious to anyone who live or works in those countries.
4- Finally, such fantasies may lead to spouses losing interest in one another, so the wife is no longer attractive to her husband, and vice versa, which leads to marital problems, and then sufferings and problems start.
For all of these reasons, our advice to everyone who is tested with such fantasies is to hasten to put a stop to them and rid himself of them. The following means may be of help:
1 ?Completely avoiding everything that may provoke such fantasies, such as haraam movies and TV shows which are shown on satellite TV, as well as avoiding reading stories that generate such fantasies. We have already discussed on our site the fact that it is haraam to read such sexual stories. See the answer to question no. 34489.
Al-Ghazaali said in Ihya? ?Uloom al-Deen (1/162):
The way to ward off distracting thoughts is to cut off their source, i.e. avoid the means that could create these thoughts; if the source of such thoughts is not stopped, it will keep generating them. End quote
2 ? Regularly reciting the adhkaar that are prescribed in sharee?ah, especially that which is said before having intercourse: ?Allaahumma jannibna al-shaytaana wa jannib al-shaytaana ma razaqtana (O Allaah, keep the Shaytaan away from us and keep the Shaytaan away from that with which You bless us).? Narrated by al-Bukhaari (141)and Muslim (1434).
3 ? Focusing on the present enjoyment instead of that which is absent. In both spouses there is that which will keep the other from thinking of haraam things. If each spouse focuses on the attractions of the other, they will not be distracted by fantasies of other things.
4 ? Imagine if your husband had fantasies like you do, would you accept that? Wouldn?t that make you feel unhappy? How can you accept to make your husband feel like that? Try to use this thought to get rid of what you are feeling.
5 ? Consult psychologists. There is nothing wrong with your going to a female psychologist or family doctor and asking her for advice; you may find something to help you in sha Allaah.
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From what I know, and have heard from various Muslim friends, they don't bother to try and control it, but from what I do know it is ha ram for girls to be with guys of a different religion, and my male friends who are Muslim get free range. Which doesn't seem to fly well with some as much with others.
Think of about someone you love is natural (even it's sexual) and there's nothing immoral about it in Islam
Mohamed dreamed about Aisha before they were married. And according to Islam, no Muslim saints in the Quran ever sinned. So take it easy about yourself
You are Muslim, correct?
Islam is a logical religion.
WHY WOULD IT BE HARAM TO FALL IN LOVE/THINK ABOUT THE PERSON THAT YOU LOVE?
That is perfectly human. It is normal, it is human, to be sexually attracted to someone (hopefully the opposite sex).
I am a Muslim as well, and I love my religion. I study Islam a lot. No where is there anything that says you cannot think thoughts about a person you like.
Please understand, it is NOT ha ram to fall in love!
Now....you say "fantasize". I am going to "fantasize" in a sexual way....I'm pretty sure you mean it in a sexual way. We are humans. We do that, we think like that. There is nothing wrong with it. Allah is the Most-Understanding and the Most-Forgiving. He knows us humans, b/c he created us. He will forgive us. It is in His book. Allah is the Most-Forgiving.
Now, you can be "pure" by getting married to whomever you fantasize about. Pre-marital sex is not allowed in Islam, just like it is not allowed in all other religions (I don't know about Hinduism and Buddhism, but Christianity, Judaism and Islam do not allow Prue-marital sex).
Get married and then fulfill your sexual desires.
The Prophet Mohammed (pub) said that fasting helps lower ones gaze.
You can try whichever. Hope I helped and please don't think that falling in love is ha ram. It's not. Thinking/fantasizing about a person that you like doesn't make you "dirty".
Talk about marriage to whomever this person is and/or fast!
Ask Allah for guidance and help and I am more than positive that He will assist you.
He is the Most-Understanding!
May Allah guide us on the straight path, initially!!!
Islam allows love but not lust. Falling for every girl you see is ha ram.
If you are grown up and have accomplished your career planning goals
you can ask your parents to talk to parents of the girl you like. But if
you are still studying, you should overcome the thoughts about girls
as it is lust not love. Do not read romantic books or watch such
movies. Read Quran daily and perform 5 obligatory prayers without
fail. In Shae Allah you will be saved from sinning thoughts and would
be able to overcome these.
Islam is the message of love and Allah has created us like that so each sex will naturally attract by apposite , so have thought coming in mind like you love some one is not bad the thing is you do not have to fulfill you needs in ha ram forbidden things.
Like if you like some girls despite dating in manner what the way in west and relationship without marriage you can propose her and if you want to understand each other or meet , meet in front of Mariam's not alone.
See this video dating in Islam this will IsahellaLeach you a lot
http://islam-faq.blogspot.com/2010/05/dating-in-islam.html
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