What do the Eastern Traditions such as Buddhism and Jainism teach about child discipl
Does anyone on R&S know?
I know the Christians growing up in the Baptist south (where I was raised) are very big on corporal punishment and allowing it in their schools (it's still used in schools in 12 states in the Bible Belt). Certainly the pastors and Christian school leaders encouraged corporal punishment based on the Bible where I grew up.
My husband and I raised our three kids WITHOUT corporal punishment and I couldn't be happier with the results (they're late teens to early adulthood now).
Are the Abrahamic religions the only ones that teach children should be struck? You know, the "spare the rod" advice from Solomon in the OT. (Which is crap since his own son Rehoboam turned out to be such a vicious tyrant that his own people wanted to murder him and throw him into a pit, but I digress)
Since the eastern religions often have precepts of non-violence and not imposing your will onto others, do they specifically forbid corporal punishment of children?
Or is this not addressed per say?
@RC There is no proof that a God exists...and there is certainly no proof that a book is his divine revelation. And when my children did misbehave they were disciplined with removal of privileges or natural consequences of their actions. Above all, my husband and I modeled the behavior we expected from them. I don't subscribe to you Christian sad-masochistic religion of loving and fearing an authority figure at the same time. And my children are adults now, and wonderful, well-adjusted human beings.
I wouldn't brag about how well your child training worked, because they are still enemies of God and are on their way to Hell.
Happiness with our unrepentant children usually is only possible if we have low standards
Believe me, my parenting standards are very high. I hold myself to high standards as well...like being intelligent enough to mold a child's behavior without striking someone 1/3 of my size.
You, who are judging strangers and assuming children are going to hell, are exactly the type of person I wouldn't allow around my children when they were small to poison their minds with your sad-masochistic nonsense about children 'repenting".
Did you have any answer to my question about eastern traditional beliefs or did you just come along to judge the parenting of a stranger? Typical "Christian".
Eastern societies have a long history of corporal punishment. For both children and adults. The Dhammapada quotes approvingly of capital punishment in saying "he who lies with another man's wife will receive misfortune from the king". That "misfortune" is in the form of beheading. For thousands of years caning has been used as a form of punishment in the East with no cries of outrage from any of the Eastern religions.
If your children are godless and lawless...
That is they break God's laws (the ten commandments, IE. have told lies, taken what wasn't theirs, dishonored their parents by talking back, disobeying, rolling their eyes, if they have lusted, hated, or use God's name in a less than reverent way),
.. and are unrepentant about it, then I wouldn't brag about how well your child training worked, because they are still enemies of God and are on their way to Hell.
Happiness with our unrepentant children usually is only possible if we have low standards.
I wouldn't want a school to spank my children. That is the job of the parents.
Spanking (handled correctly) is a superior form of discipline as compared to grounding or sending the child to a corner/their room, etc. As it takes the child through the steps of understanding what they have done wrong, applies the discipline, and brings about restoration in a more timely fashion. Children long to be in close relation to their parents in spite of the child's sinful self-will, the quicker that relationship can be mended the happier the child is.
NOTE: Livestiu, "An action, even if it brings benefit to oneself, cannot be considered a good action if it causes physical and mental pain to another being."
Buddha
So, a person who gives you your chemo-therapy treatments is doing a bad thing? The nurse who gives you a needle? A parent who grounds her child, or takes away privileges? (mental pain). Buddha would prohibit any kind of parental intervention that might cause a child angst?
"An action, even if it brings benefit to oneself, cannot be considered a good action if it causes physical and mental pain to another being."
Buddha
Buddhism generally disapproves of any form of violence or physical punishment.
Its generally accepted that rewarding good behavior produces better behavior than punishing bad behavior.
This book details forms of behavior conditioning, although it is written by Karen Pryor a dog trainer, the techniques remain the same for all animals including children and adults, as she explains in her book.
Don't Shoot the Dog!: The New Art of Teaching and Training by Karen Pryor
What do the Eastern Traditions such as Buddhism and Jainism teach about child discipl
