Question for Mormons ; Why do some people in your Churches quit talking to people who
Especially in some of your Singles wards Why do some people black bottom some one who has not served a mission for your Church.I thought you were suppose to make people feel welcome in your wards groups etc. Not make it so that some one wants to leave Church & not come back ?
My first thought is where do you live? You dint get as many judgmental Mormons in Ca, Nevada and Arizona.
I have never been in a ward where people have ostracized anyone because they didn't serve a mission or we rent the perfect little Mormon, quite the opposite. A couple of my Mormon friends have been excommunicated (they are coming back to church now) and they are very very welcomed, but I live in Southern Ca and I think Mormons here are pretty accepting and open for the most part.
Are you sure that you aren't pushing people away, too. Some people I have talked to that have complained about people being rude to them have had kind of an attitude teds others in the ward and although I didn't really tell them, I kind of got why people were rude to them and it had nothing to do with the fact that they we rent perfect little Mormons. They almost set themselves up to be pushed away with their attitude teds other Mormons.
Have you actually experienced this yourself? I doubt it. Because this is unusual. You no doubt heard some gossip to the effect that this happens.
Don't confuse something that almost never happens in the first place, to something that happens regularly.
Mormons are individuals. Individuals have different motivations for what they do, and how they behave. In the LDS group that you are now with, you will click with some people and you won't click with other people. Simple as that.
This is the case no matter what group you find yourself in. School, College, Work... you name it. Your question is more about social dynamics than anything else.
Don't get upset at the LDS Church, because social dynamics applies at a Singles Ward, the same as anywhere else.
I've never encountered a single Mormon who behaved like that. Most of us would never even consider treating someone poorly. In fact, there are a couple of young men in my ward who either didn't serve or were sent home for choices they made, and they were given nothing but complete support. There was no judgment, certainly no condemnation. Though I'm sure there are individuals who'll judge, most of us wouldn't.
Maybe they've never had a close friend or relative not go on a mission, so they lack empathy, but I don't really know why they do that but It's judgmental and you're right, it goes against the teachings of our Church. There are however, just as many church members who don't black ball people who don't conform to the ideal.
Not true. I never went on a mission and I was born and raised in the church. No one has ever placed a stigma or a black label on me for not doing it. I am a very active and devote Mormon. Did I wish I had gone on a mission. Yea, sometimes I wish I had, but realize I've been doing a lot of serving others in my community as it is.
Missions are mostly for the guys, and I knew one guy who couldn't cut it on a mission and came back home. Course I was a bit disappointed but I got over it. As far as I know he's still in the church.
But their are lots of people who never really go on a mission, myself included.
I hope you realize that there are a few living apostles who didn't serve missions:
Thomas S. Monson, Henry B. Eyring, Dieter Friedrich Uchtdorf, Boyd K. Packer, & Russell M. Nelson
There are many reasons why someone may not serve a mission. However, in a setting where many are returned missionaries, it may be awkward finding out that someone didn't go. To be honest, I wouldn't feel comfortable asking the person why they didn't go. I would assume that it was personal and it isn't my business. Perhaps this is what you are experiencing within the Singles ward. Would it make you more comfortable if everyone came up and asked you about it?
A social benefit is a great support from the church, but a firm foundation is built with our Faith centered in Christ.
Um, I've never seen that happen, and I've known people to come home early from their missions. Where exactly are you getting your information? Are you Mormon, or do you just make these things up?
Maybe I can answer this question for you. When I was a Mormon, I definitely thought less of those who never served missions. I always thought that they had some grievous sin that they committed and were not worthy to go. I may have never treated them worse than others, but I did think of them less than those who had not gone on missions. I always thought there was something wrong with them.
In the Mormon church, the first principal of gospel is obedience. If you don't follow the rules and standards then there is obviously something less than perfect about you. Sadly, you're second tier compared to guys that served missions. You'll never be able to compare to them unless you decide to become a missionary.
Say I'm wrong all you want, but what I said is true. Just be honest with your true thoughts and you'll agree.
I've encountered whole wards like that. These were student wards mind you. Some people are jerks, just like the first person said. It does happen, but it's not supposed to. There is a lot of clique like things that go on in the Mormon church. I suspect those same things happen in almost every church though.
Question for Mormons ; Why do some people in your Churches quit talking to people who
