I'm 19, I lied to someone(no specifics) about my sexuality. I am a virgin, but HAVE touched & been touched in the past. I feel great remorse for lying and for the sins i have commit ed. Though i refuse to partake in such activities today(my current girlfriend, i respect her to the best of my ability) I feel guilt towards my previous girlfriends. I'm too afraid to confess, I'm afraid of the consequences any advice/help?
I have prayed, repented. Though the guilt still remains for lying.
I have no idea who to apologize to, and who to confess to
If you are Mormon and you have prayed, confessed and repented to God, that should be all you need to do. You could always try talking it through with a pastor though if you think it might help, even though it wouldn't be like a formal confession.
Well you know scripture states that there is a price to pay for sins, you are going to have man up and take what ever comes your way. Jesus did his part, now you do yours.
From discussions with some Mormon friends of mine, they said Mormons confess to their Bishops.
If you feel the guilt for this then you need to do what is right.
so your not feeling guilt over the sexual contact but you feel guilt over lying ? you have confessed mate, you exposed the lie into the light of consciousness.... so you have made an action of confession here have you not ?
it seems to me like the lie came because you fell short of your own expectations of yourself ?
our expectations of ourselves are not always so good... and don't forget Original sin also - eating of the tree of knowledge of good and bad... how do you think that effects us and how has it effected the judgments you put upon yourself, because that is not your place to do that either, but Gods.
honor thyself.
to thy own self be true....
and those words are biblical, from the word of god - so with regards to sexuality and sin you know the truth in your heart - to ask others such questions is not always a good move as sex and sexuality is something a lot of people got issues over...
don't let masses of people rule the path of your life - they are not god, they are people... what god created you to be is how you are intended and that is a much higher authority than the ideas and opinions of people, even if it is of millions of people.
apologies to and forgive yourself for whatever pain you have caused to you, it sounds like you been hurt by this more than anyone else doesn't it ?
You don't owe anybody an apology or confession.
The guilt trip laid on youth by the Mormon church is *so* oppressive and ridiculous -- I know, I went through much the same thing. My bishop used to tell us that if we french-kissed a girl, we were doing "heavy petting," and needed to confess it to him and "come clean" (though much later, after talking with others, we all suspected that he got his jollies by hearing out stories). So even being a good, faithful Mormon and trying hard to "choose the right," I got the guiltiest big-time.
Control of sexuality and oppression of normal sexual behavior and making people feel great amounts of guilt about very minor "sin" are all ways organizations (usually religious) control their members. It has nothing to do with your "salvation," and everything to do with keeping you in line.
By the way, if you're bothering to pay attention, this is where you should notice that a bunch of church leaders will all tell you they're in direct contact with the "holy spirit" and it leads them -- but unless you tell them about your "touching," not one of them will ever figure it out. Ask yourself why this "holy spirit" doesn't let them know you lied to them? Hmm? Gee, could it be that (gasp!) they're not getting any information from this claimed "holy spirit?" How about that.
I went on a mission at 19 despite my doubts. Worked really hard, too. Was a district and zone leader. Came back, and could no longer reconcile the real world with church claims -- many of which are pr oven false by evidence. So I left. Best thing I ever did. And though I always remained "respectful" to my female partners, and treated all of them (including my now wife of 19 years) with respect, I did what we both felt right about doing, and left all the guilt trips behind. You have no idea how liberating that is. I suggest you try it.
Go to your local LDS ward. There will be an LDS Bishop there. Contact him, and ask him to give you an appointment. Then at your appointment, which is in his office, in a closed room, confess to him your sins.
I realize that you are not Mormon, but this is still what you need to do, to help you get this behind you. Furthermore you must commit to never doing the same thing again. The LDS Bishop will have some advice for you... take that advice.
The Bishop of your local LDS Ward, is there to help you remove the burden of guilt from your soul. Not repeating the mistake, in the future, is the most important thing you can do, and to redouble your effort to be the good and noble person that God intends you to be, is very important as well.
Additionally you will want to set up an appointment with the LDS Missionaries, who will give you some lessons about the essentials of the gospel of Jesus Christ, and they will come to your home upon your request to do so.
All this will help you to get farther and farther away from your past sins, and closer and closer to Jesus Christ, and you will become cleaner and cleaner as you do this.
It's all in your head. If you repented about it and feel remorse and plan to never do it again, then that's really all you can do. Everyone makes mistakes and the only thing you can do is learn from them and try your best to never do them again.
I know it's hard in church because people bring up the "evils of sexual sin" all the time and it reminds you of your past, but, like I said those feelings are all in your head.
Prove to yourself that you're changed by how you act with your new girlfriend. Think of it as a new start and start the way you act over again.
In all reality, though, it's normal to experiment sexually while you're young. Don't beat yourself up about it and just don't worry about it. You're fine and perfectly normal.
(Mormon Question) sexual sins..?
