I am an American Christian female and I live with my Italian Roman Catholic?

boyfriend and we are discussing marriage. He says to get married here in Italy we have to be married in the Roman Catholic church.I am not Catholic.If I marry under this religion I am saying I change my beliefs but really I'm not. Is this not giving false vows.Is there a way around it?
And for all you smarties out there just answer the question no opinions please.
Apparently I am trying to do the right thing !

Aren't you flouting your churches' beliefs by shacking up together in the first place? I might question your commitment to your faiths.

You are in a mess!I would suggest no marriage at all

Which church feels that is OK to live together before marriage? That's the one I'd go with, was I you.

where you are married has nothing to do with your faith. get your mind off the material and worry about only what you believe.

If you are Christian do only what the rule of Christianity teach you

oh boy...I smell trouble down the road. Sharing a similar belief system is absolutely imperative for a relationship to be successful. The question you should ask yourself is, Can you find it in your heart and soul to become a roman catholic? Or can your husband to be find it in his heart to become a christian?

Get married in Catholic church does not mean that you change your beliefs. I think you both can marry and keep your own beliefs without change. you are do so now while you are together, aren't you?

I am a Catholic and married a Christian non-Catholic in a Catholic Church with no problem. The vows are made to the same God, even with respect, if you were out in the open air. You are not compromising your beliefs - for certain non Catholic creeds are more Catholic than the Catholics themselves........
Have a wonderful wedding (and life), God Bless...........

well as a catholic i can tell you, if he is a very family oriented catholic person, he will probably not negotiate a way around it because his beliefs are that he must be married in the church and to be married in the church you must at the very least go to the priest and vow to raise your children in the catholic faith, I dint see what problem you may have with this as all Christianity originated from the catholic church, and it being 2006 the basic beliefs of loving your family and being a good person are universal among all christian religions, so i do not believe you should really have a problem with it, I'm pretty sure that you yourself do not HAVE to change your religion to Catholicism, but you should open your heart to your future husbands religion and at the very least go to a few masses before hand and check it out, maybe you will find that you are worried about nothing

yes. Tell the priest how you feel.
You don't have to convert in order to marry a Catholic, although the children should be raised Catholic, so you may as well find out some things about it.

My husband was Mennonite/Lutheran background, but had never been baptized in either religion. When we met, he decided to become baptized. Although neither of us were Roman Catholic, he was baptized there. He took an RCIA class, and received three sacraments at Easter. However, he did not have to convert in order to marry me, but he did it anyway.

And I? I am belonging to the Byzantium Catholic church. We think the Roman Catholic church has turned protestant on us and we frown upon the bending she has done in order to please heretics.

Sorry. Thought I'd throw you for a loop. The RC church has "loosened" the strings a bit. Chin up. It's not the end of the world

Yet.

its either you get married in a christian church or to get married in a catholic church. my point is its either you or your bf will sacrifice the religion. according to the bible, a believer should not be equally yolk with unbeliever. you will be compromising your faith not the religion. if you got married and start to have children is it Ikey to your husband for your children to attend christian services? or vice verse.

You don't have to change your religion to marry a Catholic, but if you really love this guy you should want to do your best to at least learn what the Catholic Church actually teaches instead of what people mistakenly think the Church teaches.

It would be better for the children if both parents are Catholic. That's why the Church does not advise that Catholics marry out of their faith. But it would have to be a true conversion on your part.

A fake conversion would be a big mistake and would eventually doom the marriage. And who would suffer the most from it? The children.

That being said, the only thing that the Catholic Church would insist upon is that the children be brought up going to Mass and that they receive a good education in the Catholic faith.

If you marry your boyfriend, and claim to be Catholic, you will probably be expected to bring your children up in the Catholic faith. Is this what you want? If you want your children to have the freedom to choose their own beliefs, you should start right now, setting an example. You could possibly go somewhere else to get married, where you would not have to pretend to a belief. Freedom of religion should be worth standing up for.

Let your boyfriend know that you would be going against what you believe if you marry at his church. I think that you both deserve to be completely honest with each other as you discuss the possibility of marriage. Be straightforward with him.

The Catholic Church does not require you to change your beliefs to marry your fiance. Review the marriage vows to see if there is anything you can't promise. I don't think you will find anything.

Be honest with your fiance and the priest. Explain your concerns.

However by marrying in the Catholic Church, you and your new husband will be asked to promise to raise your children as Catholics.

Congratulations.

With love and prayers in Christ.

You've got it all wrong. Assuming you are a non-Catholic Christian, I can assure you that you are not turning your back on your beliefs by getting married in a Catholic Church. Whether you get married in a Catholic Church or a non-Catholic Christian Church, you are still consecrating a Sacred Union between yourself and your fiancee - and that union is Spiritually binding in the eyes of the lord regardless of whether it takes place in a Catholic or non-Catholic Christian church.

for the catholic church, a catholic can marry a non-catholic in a catholic church with catholic mutuality, as long as the non-catholic is a baptized christian and your children get the chance to be educated as catholics. so you are not changing your beliefs and nobody asks you to do so. you can talk about it with the catholic priest, he can make an inquiry and confirm you this. if not check out the points about mixed marriages in the catechism of the catholic church (paragraphs 1633-1637):
http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P53.HTM