SOmething simple like little sandwiches(make sure to have plenty of vegetarian stuff like Egg Salad) Also a veggie tray and some briskettat always nice. Just make bruschetta and get a few loaves of sour dough bread itll be a hit. SOme chips and dip is always good.
If I thought you were serious...for refreshments, vegetable platters, fruit platters, crackers, little sandwiches, pretty much anything you think is mood appropriate. As for music, light classical or something modern and non-offensive to both.
However, after reading your other questions, I know you're not, and you make me sad. Oh, well, life goes on and another idiot comes along. I can't want to see what the next one comes up with.
BTW, in your picture, it's too small to tell if you're an ugly woman or a guy dressed as a woman. Which one is it?