I am starting to get involved with learning "Wicca" but my sister is a devoted Christ

So my sister is the wife of a preacher, wears the long skirts and has very long hair. They own a church and teach a youth group. I tried to be a part of her religion, went to church camp, and even got the Holy Ghost. But when the time came and I was asked to be baptized, I said No. It just wasn't right for me. I have taken a big interest into Wicca and my cousin is in the religion. She is going to teach me and help me grow into the Wiccan religion. The problem is, my sister believes that Wicca is following Satan. I mean I still believe in Jesus, but I don't know how to face my sister anymore? She doesn't know yet, but I can't hide it my whole life. I am 13 almost 14. Help?
You can be a Wiccan and still have Jesus as your patron!

tell her....its your life not heir's. even though she's your sister she has no right to change what you believe in.

Put a spell on her, but you have to be real careful with those Wiccan spells. I know someone that lost an ear from it.

Go ahead and believe what you will, to me Wicca is much better than Christianity and the mythology (sorry if you take offense to me calling your beliefs a mythology but I'm an atheist) is much more interesting. From what I can understand Wicca preaches respecting the Earth and others, Christianity on the other hand caused the Dark Ages, the Inquisition, the KKK, the Crusades, and slavery and racism in America so do you thing girl.

Why are you worrying about your sister so much? Live your life and don't worry what others think.

If you still believe in Jesus, and you are not accepting him, but someone else as your god... well, I understand their concern. You're damming yourself to hell. In that regard, Wicca is leading you to hell, which means it's pretty satanic, doesn't it?

No, you can't hide your faith path for your whole life; it would be wrong to expect anyone to do that. You have the right to seek faith as you choose, and so does your sister.

Your problem lies in the likelihood that your sister is less tolerant and open-minded than you. At the very least, she is not well educated about what Wicca is, and I'm sure her intolerance can be intimidating; ignorant intolerance usually is.

What do your parents think of Wicca, if they have an opinion about it? If they are more tolerant than your sister, you might be able to discuss your religious choice with them and get their help in providing a buffer zone between you and your sister, if she gets too much in your face about it.

In general, though, I would take care not to discuss religion at all around your sister and ask that she extend you the same courtesy when she visits.

It's an uncomfortable situation; religion is such a touchy subject with some people. I hope you come out of it okay. There is deep beauty in Christianity, but the sort your sister appears to practice isn't it.

You say that you "got the Holy Ghost." I can't judge what's in your heart, but I wonder if you just had a religious experience without truly being born again. If you have truly accepted Jesus Christ as your personal savior, then you are born again. If you're relying simply on some experience that you had (i.e. responding to an invitation, reciting a prayer, or speaking in tongues without the conviction that Christ saves you the moment you believe in Him alone for eternal life), you need to go through the gospel again to find out what salvation really means.

"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16 NIV).

ANYONE who accepts the free gift of eternal life offered by Jesus WILL enter Heaven. This includes homosexuals, drug addicts, murderers, and many other evil-doers. Salvation and Lordship are two separate and distinct issues. Salvation occurs at the moment a person believes in Jesus for eternal life. Lordship (or spiritual growth) is a lifelong process that will never end until we get to Heaven.

"And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession?to the praise of his glory" (Ephesians 1:13-14 NIV).

If you have truly believed in Jesus Christ alone for eternal life at some point in your life, then you are a Christian. If you are relying on some other religious experience you may have had but have never believed in Jesus Christ alone to save you, then you are still lost in your sins.

Either way, you will never have assurance of your salvation until you recognize that Jesus Christ alone can save you. Jesus Christ demands that you trust Him alone and He will not tolerate second place in your life. Remember also that Second Corinthians 5:10 tells us, ?For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.? This judgment is intended only for born again believers who have responded positively to God's free offer of salvation. It determines what position or rank a believer will have in eternity. If you are saved but not living out your faith, you will not receive any eternal rewards in heaven.

Again, I can't judge what's in your heart. However, I recommend that you do an honest assessment of yourself and believe in Jesus Christ alone for eternal life. Even though salvation occurs at a moment in a person's life, assurance of salvation comes from what we believe in the present.

If she is a true Christian then she may be unhappy but she should not get angry with you.

Some Biblical quotes on the subject of tolerance...

"Collassions" ch apt 3

"Since God chose you to be the holy people whom he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. 13 You must make allowance for each others faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. "

Proverbs ch apt 6

" The Lord hates and cannot tolerate, someone who stirs up trouble among friends".

Hebrews ch apt 3

"Try to live in peace with everyone"

Proverbs 20

"Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling"

Proverbs 19

"11 If you are sensible, you will control your temper. When someone wrongs you, it is a great virtue to ignore it"

I'm not telling you what to believe, I'm just going to respectfully request you be careful before calling it "Wicca." I'm not saying a Wiccan can't admire Jesus as a teacher or spiritual guide... but Jesus as savior, the Bible as the word of God, Heaven/Hell, etc... these are not Wicca. Without Goddess, it's not Wicca.

Wicca is a misunderstood religion as it is. A lot of people are mistaken thinking Wicca can be anything you want it to be. This is only creating a lot of confusion and watering down Wicca to the point where it is going to be a meaningless word.

It's like it would be disrespectful for me to join your sister's church and say, "I'm a Christian and I worship the Goddess Athena." I'd be crazy to expect people to accept me, and it'd be intellectually dishonest to insist I was a Goddess worship ping Christian... so like I said; Wicca is a minority religion and as it is it takes a beating, so think about if your beliefs are really Wiccan before you call it Wiccan.


As for your sister.... it does not sound like she's ever going to be understanding. If your parents are okay with it, it's not her choice. YOu don't owe her an explanation and you don't have to defend Wicca, don't try to make her understand you, just accept you both believe differently and tell her you're not interested in discussing it because it'll just end up straining your relationship. You don't have to prove anything to her, just be yourself and accept that she will probably never accept your religion if you are Wiccan so keep it for yourself and don't involve her.

Though you probably should wait until you've actually spent a couple of years learning/thinking about Wicca and you're sure it's your path before you turn around and make any announcements.

There is no reason you should be afraid to face her, there is nothing wrong with being Wiccan, even if she thinks there is you know it's not wrong... and if you think there is then again, perhaps you should seek elsewhere.

Wicca and Christianity aren't really compatible. If you believe in Jesus but are worshiping him using Wiccan ritual and such, you're probably offending him. Either way, that's not Wicca. It's also not Christian Wicca (oxymoron, if you ask me).


Regardless, if you want to learn about Wicca keep it quiet. You're only 14 so your beliefs might change over the next few years - it's not worth causing trouble over a temporary situation. Go to http://wicca.timerift.net. It's the best site I can think of for beginners and there is an excellent reading list. Books are easy to hide and you don't need fancy tools right away (or ever) anyway. Read, read, read, for the next four years. Study the religion, the history of it and the practices. When you are 18 you will be an adult and no one in your family will be able to tell you what you can and can't do with regards to your beliefs (as long as you've also moved out of their house). In other words, don't put up signs and run around screaming that you're a Wiccan. Attention-seeking behavior like that will only get you into trouble. Once moved out, you may never need to tell your parents or your sister about your beliefs - it's none of their business.

Christians regard any religion that is not theirs to be Satan tricking the followers into abandoning Christianity. It's part of their theology and doctrine and it's not something most intense Christians tend to bend on. To that end, they've persecuted themselves over this issue. If you disclose your beliefs to your sister she will most likely react poorly. It is for this reason that you should study in private, leave your family out of it (except for your cousin).

Go slowly, learn the basics before you start substituting deities of faiths that are grossly incompatible with the principles of Wicca and keep it quiet until you feel safe to discuss it with someone.