How do i practice wicca without my parents finding out?
My mom is christian and my dad believes in god but says there needs to be proof of its origin, my parents would not approve of me being Wicca, but i feel a strong connection to it. please help.
Don't! Do NOT turn away from God, you'll be sorry. I don't say this to act better than your or be boss. I do because you do not want to turn away from God. Why do you want to turn to Wicca? What is it about church that isn't appealing to you? Are you finding church service too boring?
Just do what other teenagers do, don't tell them about it. Or, you could say that you're starting a nature club that studies nocturnal species. Just keep a lot of notebooks and diagrams around, you know, drawings of owls & stuff like that.
Do you have an isolated place in your home that your parents do not often visit? It's really hard to hide this sort of thing as an altar takes up a fair bit of space, and most incense will produce a fairly strong odor.
Your best bet would be to set up your altar away from your home, but that might not always be feasible.
What you should probably do is actually talk to your parents about this. Honesty is usually the best policy. They might not like that you are exploring Wicca, but trying to hide your beliefs is not healthy for either yourself, or your relationship with your parents.
Pff, some people on here should really go f*ck themselves... The only thing you can do is really tell them about it, if they really love you they would certainly approve in anything you want to practice to make you feel happy and develop your spiritual well being. You don't need permission, if you feel it's right for you, do it. Your are your own master, follow your intuition. I suggest the following websites:
You do realize that Wicca is a modernized religion which encompasses all world religions. You can worship Jehova or Yahweh and practise it. Though it may break one of the commandments.
Wicca is the modernized interpretation of ancient witchcraft, with worldwide paganism thrown in for good measure. I personally despise the thing, a strange amalgamation of ideas, and since many of the deities which are allowed to be worshiped in it, often contradict one another, it makes little sense.
Which part of Wicca do you feel strongly associated with? If it is the nature worship aspect, you can do that without the witch aspect, that would not go against Christianity, since apparently God is everything and everywhere.
If it is the spells and magic aspect you find yourself drawn to, there are far better systems to study with, ones which do not simply take every metaphysical and occult idea and mix them together in some attempt to be the ultimate occult ideology. Believe it or not, not every witch was accused of heresy, there was the idea of Infernal magic and legal magic, so you can, in the eyes of the church practise certain paths of magic.
The bible also has many magicians, including a Necromancer who is used by a king before a battle. Despite the fact using the skills of Necromancer is a sin, he does it anyway and is apparently a holy and just man...
If you wish to keep it a secret, just do not practise it before them. Go out and practise it.
You will need quite a bit of space to practise much of it as well, the altar can be just about anything, even a simple clean and cleansed cloth. Practising outdoors is often more productive than being surrounded by lifeless stone and modern mechanics, as well as a fear of being found.
Be Skyclad, embrace the world for what it is! Or not, the choice is yours of course.
(P.S I would not really use websites to decide which belief to place my faith in. One needs to experience or speak with others of said faith before deciding. Websites are good for certain things, however people often distort information and the truth which is known to one soul will not be known to another. Books are your friend, as are the words of those who have practiced it for many, many years)
1. Wait until you are 18 and on you own, or 2. Talk to them about it. You can't take courses or be taught Wicca unless you are either 18 or get parental consent. 3. If you believe Wicca is associated with witchcraft like the guy who said to cast a spell on them, you know nothing about Wicca.
Read about it and study BEFORE you even think about getting into Wicca. A "strong connection" is not enough of a reason.
My parents were the same way. At first they were really mad about it and tried to keep me from it because they were afraid I was "Turing toward the devil", but the best thing you can do is be honest with them. After I sat them down and showed them books and reports and explained what Wicca really was they opened up. My mom (who is the most uptight person ever) even buys me stuff for my alter and holidays ha ha. We even had a "dumb dinner" last year. They have bee very supportive.
DO YOUR RESEARCH and show them the proof of how Wicca isn't bad. Its not a link to the devil (we dint even believe in the devil towhee).
I have been learning Wicca since I was 11, mostly without my parents knowing until I told them I wanted to set up an alter. Take baby steps, they have to learn with you (I mean learn what Wicca is about and how it will effect your life)
And I'll tell you now, pick the parent who you get along with most to tell first. That way you 2 can talk and get it out of the way before you tell the parent that freaks out over everything ha ha.
Just be honest, if you live right and with love in your heart it wont matter what anyone else says. (and be sure you're studying the right things, no evil junk its bad for you *wink*)
Either lie to them and practice in secret (tell them you're doing something else), or keep your beliefs in your heart until you're free to practice them without your parents stopping you.
Is there any possible way of making them understand?
I sympathies with you, my mum doesn't approve of my studying Wicca either, I get into serious trouble about it.
Do what you think is right, and remember at the end of the day your parents love you, and will only do what they think is best for you, even if it isn't. (But don't forget that you need to do what's right for you, too!)
I'm saying this as someone who is pagan herself and admires Wicca: Don't do it. Wicca is a religion that teaches certain morals and those morals are enforced by a certain karmic effect called the "threefold law." To lie and deceive is usually against the morals of most Wiccans and certainly can cause harm. If you go further into practicing magi ck and witchcraft, lies and deceit unravel a witches magi ck... it is imperative for a witch to remain honest if s/he is to remain powerful. Power is built on integrity, not on falsehood and broken promises.
If you are setting out on a journey to learn and practice a new religion, why would you start this journey, from the very beginning, under the auspices of deceit? Does this not indicate that the journey will be taunted by your own lies? No, please, don't try to deceive your parents when it comes to exploring your spiritual path... it sets a very bad precedent for your spiritual life.
Be honest with them. Let them know what you believe, talk with them about your spiritual life, involve them. If you find that they want to ban you from exploring Wicca, that's their prerogative and right. That only means that you'll have to wait until you move out to fully explore Wicca and that's OK because no reputable coven will accept anyone under 18 anyhow. Your parents only want what's best for you... they may not understand your desires, but they are doing their best and when living with them, it is best to indulge them in this way since it does not harm you to not explore Wicca as soon as humanly possible... this isn't a race... you have plenty of time.
You might be surprised, however. When you enter into conversation with your parents, you may discover that they are much more open-minded then you assumed and may allow or even encourage you to explore this new religion. I know when I "came out" as a pagan to my mother, we studied together for a short time and she decided that she was pagan as well. Test the waters a bit more and explain things in language they'll understand and accept (IE: witch, spell, pagan etc may be scary words... try healer, prayer, spirituality etc instead. hey may be more willing to listen to words like those).
Please don't set out on a journey to lie and deceive. You will regret it and I believe it will make a very poor Wiccan out of you if you do.
-Scarlet
it is very simple DONT TALK TO THEM if u have a coven say Ur going to the "movies" and meet up with them there or just do it wen no ones home and lock the door so you'll hear if someones home
I don't think you're going to be very happy with this answer -- But it's an important one.
If you are under 21, few if any legitimate, experienced Wiccan teachers, High Priests or High Priestesses -- would allow you to study with them, without your parents' (written) permission. This is because your parents have legal, moral and ethical *responsibility* for you, so they therefore also have a legal, ethical and moral RIGHT to determine what you "practice" -- at least until you reach the Age of Majority (21 in most USA States).
And what harm would it do, if you would just respect your parents wishes for the next couple of years until you reach 21? Most Wicca teachers require their students to study such general subjects as History, Mythology, Science, Anthropology, Sociology, Archaeology, Theology and Comparative Religions, so you would be wise to continue regular (High School) studies, anyway -- which will give you a good, solid foundation for future Wiccan studies and practice.
Also, as far as "learning" or studying or even discussing Wicca -- You need to be very careful who you listen to, because there are an AWFUL LOT of wannabees, charlatans, and "think-they-Arie's" out there -- even some who claim to BE Wiccan, don't know what they're talking about, frankly, and there's a LOT of what many of us call "Witchcrap" that circulates as "information". Here are some good, reliable resources on *authentic* Wicca:
RESOURCES ON WICCA:
1. CoG - Covenant of the Goddess - http://www.cog.org
- a national organization of (legally-recognized Wiccan "churches") - Wiccan covens, clergy and solitaries -- with local "councils" in many cities. CoG provides general, basic information, links to resources and other organizations, Groups, Covens, teachers, High Priests and High Priestesses, and much more. CoG also "certifies" clergy and Elders, and sponsors "Merry Meet" - a yearly 5-day festival.
2. Circle Sanctuary - http://www.circlesanctuary.org -
- a Pagan (not just Wiccan) Sanctuary, working farm, and Learning Center. It offers training, workshops, festivals, networking, and sponsors other organizations (notably, "Lady Liberty League" (http://www.ladylibertyleague.org) which offers support, resources, networking and advocacy for any Pagans experiencing religious persecution) - and much more.
4. Witchvox - http://www.witchvox.com
- a wonderful resource offering general, basic information, articles, referrals and links to local and regional resources on Pagan Classes, Groups, Organizations, Merchants, and more.
6. ?Beginning Wicca? Yahoo Group - http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BeginningW?
- One of the better Yahoo groups with several High Priests and Priestess members, so there are lots of good discussions and good information available in both the online discussions, and the Files section.
B. BOOKS:
1. Books And Authors To Avoid -
Silver Ravenwolf
Douglas Monroe's "21 Lessons of Merlin"
Kisma Stepanich
Edain McCoy
2 . Good Book Resources On Wicca: -- The best and first book i'd recommend is Ellen Cannon Reed's "The Heart of Wicca" --
3. Finally, i thought i'd offer the following link to an article i wrote on "Getting Started In Wicca":
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Witch_Esse?
I hope all of that is helpful -- Please don't hesitate to ask any questions -- But with all the sarcasm, ignorance and foolishness, this is not the best place; Instead, try any of the above resources.
I'm in a similar situation... I suggest that you practice without telling them for a while, just to make sure 100% that you want this, then eventually tell your parents. I
How do i practice wicca without my parents finding out?
